I deserve someone ...

I am absolutely agree with ALL below!

If a man wants you...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be .
Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his .
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you .

If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later .
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are .
Never borrow someone else's man .

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted .

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Tension~

When you are tension, you keep it to yourself..

When you meet the tension, it grows bigger..

When you are too tension, you tend to blow[like a volcano]..

Later, you feel ease and clear..

So darling, I'm really glad you let it out so that we can go tension together!! =p

Not to say you added me more tension, sometimes its better to release everything as it is very not worthy to keep it to yourself. Also, at least you're free from any disease!

Don't forget to smile & laugh [since laughter is the best medicine for any crap you're encounter to] ;)

p/s: I'm so not in the mood due to personal matters o.O

This is what we called...MIANG!!!

Cop arrested over alleged rape of 17yr-old

PETALING JAYA: A policemen was arrested after he allegedly raped a 17-year-old girl who was brought into the police station for interrogation.

The girl was allegedly forced to perform oral sex on the policeman, in his 20s, and was raped at a police station in Selangor on June 18.

It is learnt that the girl was on a motorcycle with her boyfriend at 5am when the policeman, who was on patrol, stopped them. As the boyfriend did not have a licence, the policeman and his colleague hauled the couple to the police station for questioning.

Sources said the boyfriend and the girl were questioned in different rooms.

“During questioning, the girl was forced to undress and the policeman threatened to throw her boyfriend in jail for 20 years if she refused to obey him,” said Selangor police chief Deputy Comm Datuk Khalid Abu Bakar.

Fearing for her boyfriend’s safety, the girl agreed to perform oral sex on him before being raped.

After half an hour, the two were released but the girl did not reveal the incident to her boyfriend or family members.

However, two days later she confided in her cousin who promptly told her parents.

Accompanied by family members, the girl lodged a police report at the Putra Heights police station on Sunday.

Khalid said that the policeman, who is married with a child, has been detained and remanded.

“He has been suspended pending investigation,” he added.

Remark: Are we (women) gonna be safe on road? Fuck sake POLICE MIANG!!

This is funny..

And I cannot believe they have the intention to ban them!We can't live without those two!!

No ban on lipstick and high heels

KOTA BARU: The municipal council (MPKB) has clarified that remarks on lipstick and high heel shoes in its circular in May, were meant to spread religious activities.

Its public relations director Azman Mohd Daham said the circular was not a compulsory guideline for Muslim female staff to follow but to encourage them to observe the Islamic dress code.

“Muslim women need not be unduly worried. No action would be taken if they wear thick make-up or high heel shoes,” he told journalists.

Azman was responding to a news report that MPKB had banned Muslims from wearing make-up and high heel shoes which generate loud noises in business and commercial premises under its jurisdiction.

Thick make-up and high heel shoes can give rise to cases of rape and adultery while on a hindsight, a strict adherence to proper Islamic attire was to preserve the dignity of women here, the circular said.

The case was among several that MPKB has found itself embroiled in some form of controversy.

Previously, it was criticised for banning outfits deemed to be sexy and made it compulsory for Muslim women to wear headscarves at commercial, trade and tourism premises.

The latest circular also touches on wearing long sleeves up to the wrist, not to wear transparent attire and wearing socks which cover up their ankles.

State Women Affairs Committee chairman Wan Ubaidah Wan Omar was reported to have said that she supported the circular and asked why women should slave themselves to attract men by wearing high heels and excessive lipstick.

She contends that make-up in light portion was allowed and wearing high heels too often was unhealthy as it placed undue pressure on the feet of the wearer.

Call Girl

I started watching The Secret Diary of a Call Girl from fanpop website. Fanpop is where you can watch most tv series there. It has 8 episodes, runs 30minutes. You may view her blog.

Do you think Sufiah Yusuf aka Shilpa lee got inspired from her? To do unethical (it's against our religion fyi) thing to earn money faster..it does work for her. But would she want to do that for the rest of her life? Wait..wait..you obviously dont have a clue what am I talking about..this is what everyone is talking about..

Sufiah Yusuf is a bright student who won a place at Oxford University at age of 12. She was expected to be 'rich' due to her intelligence but sadly she found doing 'escourt' are more money-making! You can find more stories at News of the World.

I refuse to comment her much as I saw the Belle De Jour's life which is quite simliar to Sufiah. I just hope that she's able to find someone who can bring her back to the right path or realise that life isn't about selling bodies to sex hungers. Life is about embracing moments happening around you while still can.

The moral of the story? Dont pressure too much on your children no matter how perfect you want them to be. Let them acknowledge what's happening around them and making mistakes is not the end of the world.Making mistakes is good as you learning to do the right thing.But dont make too many mistakes okay! Things may become the other way round! See, like me.Very independent (if it wasnt my parents send me off here!). Guess sometimes spoil brats deserve to learn to see the world! =p

friends..best friends..partners..soulmates??

This year is an 'engagement' year...next year will be a WEDDING YEAR!

Are you getting married because..

• you've been together for so long OR
• because you just can't get enough of each other(ie. both completes each other) OR
• avoiding from doing more sins OR
  
• parents match-making OR
• pressure with your friends as they are getting married... one by one...OR
• it's a trend (ie-25 years old is an ideal age of getting married)
  

Seems like a stupid question, but most people are getting married based on the several reason above..

I envy for some of my friends who found his/her 'soulmate'..then after 6 months..'we're engaged/getting married!'.WOWWW!!

How i wish my life can be that simple..on second thought, I would rather not to rush things as this will my biggest decision which will effect my entire life!

GEesh...I'm not getting younger anymore! People at/around my age are talking about this.Wedding is a craze! =p

NB: Congrats to my friends who are engaged: syarah(25.11.07) & lisa(1.12.07) =)

emOtioNs..

It's has been an emotional weekend recently.Sometimes I just don't get men. Why do they gives us high hopes in relationship?Are they trying to take advantage of us? Or maybe for their 'fun' sake? Sometimes it just not right to give false hope on women. Especially emotional women.

This is how I see things happening around me. Man meets woman. Get to know each other. Going 'fast track' in a sudden. Then try to slow things down. The next thing you know, he's gone. He's simply not a man for once. He shouldn't go too fast in 'getting to know' stage. He should have take it easy..I mean, why are you rushing?Scared that she'll be taken away by someone better than you. Is that how things should go?

I've seen a few of my friends experiecing that phase. I just thought that it's unfair to treat women that way. I would prefer if he's being simple. Simple as in, we(man & woman) know whats going on between us instead of wondering 'is he into me?are we friends or more than that?'. If the man/woman clarify how they want things to be,it's fine. At least you know where you're heading to. But if he/she is so indecisive, then might as well you 'widen your options'. Unless you manage to change his/her mind in relationship.

Oh well,life is not perfect. Sometimes, everything happens for a reason.sigh~

Im still figuring out on how can you tell him that he's the one? I mean long-term relationship, doesn't mean you're meant to be with each other. Some cases it falls apart too. I'm not sure why. But erm, I guess the only way to know that he's the one would be:

• able to commit.
• sacrifices for you.
• support you financially(doesn't have to be filthy rich, he might look for wifey no2!) & emotionally.
• loves you sanely(hehehe, who knows..you wouldn't want to end up with a lunatic,right?)
• know how to appreciate you

ok.gotta hit the road.back to work.au révoir~

Love vs Infatuation

What, then, is the elusive thing called "Love" that everyone so desperately needs? Sometimes, we sort of like this girl because she is beautiful? Or the girl likes him because he is handsome? But this kind of "Cinderella Syndrome" when the girl is waiting on her Prince Charming, is not real love. It is better known as "Infatuation", and there is a vast difference between it and real love. Enumerated here below are the differences. Find out if you are really in love and not just infatuated.

Infatuation
Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just love of emotion. Real love though, is love of devotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love both the Emotions and the Will are involved.

Next, a person "fall into" infatuation, but "grows into"real love. Gentlemen, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint? This is infatuation. It is based totally on physical attraction; Often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus infatuation is mostly biological.

Also remember, never tell a woman you love her, unless you are willing to marry her. Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless. Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself and your "feelings" than it is in the other person.

Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person.

Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love.

Love
Now you understand what is infatuation, let us now go on to discuss about Love.

1. Love is Patient
The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently for the fulfillment of expectations. When you have difficulty dating this girl and she does not want to come out of her shell, if you truly love her, you will not complain and blame her, you must look at the situation from her point of view – maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming out. You must react to it with patience and understanding.Have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you have! Love, however, Love is willing to give the relationship time to grow at a natural pace. It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties.

2. Love is Kind
Love seeks to encourage and build up on others. It respects the feelings and emotions of others. It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy, i.e.Compliment one another, magnify the other's strength, Listen to one another. Pay close attention to what each of you has to say and make each other feel that what each says is important, etc.

3. Love is not Jealous
Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart. Love wants the best for others, but jealousy is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement, "If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget about me!" Often, one person wants to totally possess the other and to restrict her relationships with others.

4. Love is not to Brag
Love is not a windbag and is not anxious to impress. Often, a guy will brag to a girl, trying to impress her so that she will like him. A truly great person, however, does not need to exalt himself. Others will exalt him.

5. Love is not Arrogant
Love is not conceited, boastful, cocky or stuck up. Love, instead, is humble and has a servant attitude . Sometimes, a guy may come across to a girl with an "I can take you or leave you" attitude. His demeanor implies, "You ought to be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating you". Of course this is not love.

6. Love always Covers
This word cover means to pass over in silence, to keep confidential. Love is patient with faults of others. It doesn't criticize or broadcast to the world the faults of others. Love is present even when it knows the other is not perfect .

7. Love always Perseveres
Love always stands its ground and holds out . It will outlast anything. It will even love on the face of unreturned love. Real love will last through all sorts of trials, tribulations and stresses.

8. Love is not Provoked
This means that love has a long fuse. It does not become irritated andangry. It is not easily offended. Love does not seek its own. This isthe heart of love. Love is other-centered not self-centered. Love says, "I love you, I want to give you." Selfishness says, "I love you, I want you!"

9. Love does not act
Unbecomingly This means that love does not behave disgracefully, dishonorably, or indecently. It does not embarrass others by its actions. It is characterized by tact and sensitivity. This also means that love should have good manners. Be sure to do little things like opening doors for your girl or offering her your arm when you walk together.

10. Love is Forgiving
Lastly, this is a MUST for a successful love story. If a guy is not willing to forgive and forget when his girlfriend is only an hour late, he is not exhibiting love. Love doesn't hold grudges when it has been wronged. It doesn't remain resentful.

NEXT: Will blog about my vacation in Stockholm soon ;)

PMS

What is PMS?

Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is the name of a group of symptoms that start 7 to 14 days before your period (menstruation). The symptoms usually stop soon after your period begins.

Most women feel some discomfort before their periods. But if you have PMS, you may feel so anxious, depressed or uncomfortable that you can't cope at home or at work. Some of the symptoms of PMS are listed in the box below. Your symptoms may be worse some months and better others.

Symptoms of PMS

• Acne
• Bloated abdomen
• Constipation
• Crying spells
• Depression
• Fast heartbeat
• Feeling hungry
• Feeling irritable or tense
• Feeling tired
• Feeling anxious
• Headache
• Joint pain
• Mood swings
• Not feeling as interested in sex
• Tender and swollen breasts
• Trouble concentrating
• Trouble sleeping
• Swollen hands or feet
• Wanting to be alone
• Weight gain

What causes PMS?

No one knows for sure. But PMS seems to be linked in part to changes in hormone levels during the menstrual cycle. PMS is not caused by stress or psychological problems, though these may make the symptoms of PMS worse.

How is PMS diagnosed?

Your doctor may ask you to keep track of your symptoms on a calendar. If your symptoms follow the same pattern each month, you may have PMS.

Your doctor may want to examine you and do some tests to rule out other problems. He or she may also want to talk to you about your eating and exercise habits, your work and your family.

How is PMS treated?

There is no cure for PMS, but eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly and taking medicine may help. Your doctor will talk to you about whether you need to change your diet and exercise habits. He or she may also prescribe medicine for you, depending on what your symptoms are.

You may need to try more than one medicine to find the treatment that works for you. Many medicines are available over-the-counter, but some require a doctor's prescription. Medicines that can be prescribed include diuretics, antidepressants and birth control pills. Other medicines for PMS are being studied.

What are diuretics?

Diuretics help your body get rid of extra sodium and fluid. They can ease bloating, weight gain, breast pain and abdominal pain. Diuretics are usually taken just before you would normally have these symptoms.

Do antidepressants help?

Antidepressants can help with the severe irritability, depression and anxiety that some women with PMS have. These medicines are usually taken every day.

What about birth control pills?

Your doctor may talk to you about taking birth control pills (sometimes called "the pill") to help ease some of your PMS symptoms. Birth control pills help by "evening out" your hormone levels throughout your cycle. Some women's PMS symptoms get a lot better when they take birth control pills. However, the pill can also cause side effects of its own, and it doesn't help all women.

What about medicines I can buy without a prescription?

You can buy medicines without a prescription to help with the symptoms of PMS. These medicines usually combine aspirin or acetaminophen with caffeine, antihistamines or diuretics. Some brand names include Midol, Pamprin and Premsyn PMS.

Some over-the-counter pain relievers can also help. These include ibuprofen (brand names: Advil, Motrin, Nuprin), ketoprofen (brand name: Orudis KT) and naproxen (brand name: Aleve).

These medicines can work quite well for mild or moderate PMS. Talk to your doctor before you try one of these drugs.

Can I do anything to ease my symptoms?

Yes. See the box below for some tips. Know what your PMS symtoms are and when they happen. Then you can change your diet, exercise and schedule to get through each month as smoothly as possible.

Try not to get discouraged if it takes some time to find tips or medicine that help you. Treatment varies from one person to another. Your doctor can help you find the right treatment.

Tips on controlling PMS

• Eat complex carbohydrates (such as whole grain breads, pasta and cereals), fiber and protein. Cut back on sugar and fat.
• Avoid salt for the last few days before your period to reduce bloating and fluid retention.
• Cut back on caffeine to feel less tense and irritable and to ease breast soreness.
• Cut out alcohol. Drinking it before your period can make you feel more depressed.
• Try eating up to 6 small meals a day instead of 3 larger ones.
• Get aerobic exercise. Work up to 30 minutes, 4 to 6 times a week.
• Get plenty of sleep--about 8 hours a night.
• Keep to a regular schedule of meals, bedtime and exercise.
• Try to schedule stressful events for the week after your period.

What about vitamins and other home remedies?

You may have read that some vitamins and other supplements, such as vitamin B6, vitamin E, magnesium, manganese and tryptophan, can help relieve PMS. There haven't been many studies about these treatments, and it's possible that they could do more harm than good. For example, vitamin B6 and vitamin E can cause side effects if you take too much. Talk to your doctor if you're thinking of trying any of these vitamins or supplements.

On the other hand, taking calcium pills may reduce symptoms of water retention, cramps and back pain. Taking about 1,000 mg of calcium a day probably won't be harmful, especially because calcium has so many other benefits, such as being good for your bones.

Written by familydoctor.org editorial staff.

Source

American Academy of Family Physicians