baru nak ade ke???

Broad welcome for postcode plans
Monday, 21 September 2009 17:16

The business community and the National Ambulance Service have welcomed the Government's announcement that it is to introduce postal codes across the country.

The Government said the introduction of the system would cost €10m - €15m and it is hoped that it will be in place by 2011.

Danny McCoy, Director General of employers' body IBEC, said postal codes would greatly benefit businesses and consumers.
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Chief Officer with the National Ambulance Service Pat McCreanor said the system would help eliminate confusion over locating place names in emergencies.

Yesterday, the Minister for Communications said tenders for the design and implementation of the system will be issued shortly.

Minister Ryan said he expects new postal codes with digits and letters to be introduced in two years.

A Government-commissioned report said codes would provide long-term savings and demographic details for planning as well as benefitting emergency services.

An Post said it will be playing a key role in the move to postal codes which will involve coding 1.7m addresses.

In 2005, the then Minister for Communications, Noel Dempsey, promised a new system by 2008. At the time An post questioned the need for postal codes and industry experts put the cost at €50m.

However, Mr Ryan yesterday said the move would cost a fraction of that estimate.

I wonder if relationship...

would last longer if the guy chasing the girl rather than the girl chasing the guy?

Here is what I think. If a girl makes the move towards guy, the guy tend to take things for granted as he surely knows that she's all over him. Make sense right?

At least when a guy makes his move towards girl, he surely never let her go as it's not easy to win her all by himself. What worries me is that, by the end of the day, when he owns her, he takes thing for granted coz she's his. Make sense too, right?

Go figure!

Manchester!! Manchester!!

This is just what I need. A weekend trip to forget all my horrifying feelings in dublin and preparing to move on to the next level of life..what's more exciting than meeting my best fren in primary school?!

Mission in Manchester:

1. Makan - Done!
   
2. Gossiping - DOne!
   
3. Shopping

• Onitsuka Tiger Mexico 66: £25.00 (RP: £56.00)
• Clarks Work shoes: £12.50
• Manchester Windbreaker: £10.00

Basically I've got all 3! Suddenly I felt my life is getting better until...

I did something that really humiliating. I intend not to tell here, but to keep it to myself. I hope that he's being sporting after what happen. It just that I've never did something crazy in my entire life. OK...period!

At night we have our own Q&A about commitments. Ok, I know it's scary to face something unexpected from your partner after marriage, but its for our own good right? I mean especially facing their true colours.

Here's the thing.
What if you discover at very last minute that you can't get along well? Divorce? ARE YOU CRAZY????

Now I know why 1st year of marriage is the toughest of all. I guess I can't judge the book by its cover after all.

I hope I am able to pull it out. I know I can do it. Gotta be strong & strive to excellence!

Soklan cukup emas: Bila nak kawen?
My answer: Find me a prince, then I'll announce it when..lol

p/s: I'll post up the pictures soon. stay tune...

I deserve someone ...

I am absolutely agree with ALL below!

If a man wants you...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be .
Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his .
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you .

If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later .
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are .
Never borrow someone else's man .

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted .

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

tricky tricky

Q:When applying a job,which of these factors matter?Money or Time?
A: Can I have both? :)

It's complicated isn't it?It's not when you know what you want. If someone choose money over spending time with you..then,it's tough...right?

Most women will choose time..especially if you have your beloved people..or fun bubbly person..or 'I have life!' person..or any reasonable excuses..

Money would be a 'reward' for the efforts you have contributing in busy working environment.Then what would you do with money? SPEND!!!! (Well,it meant to be spent..but on what?) <- OK, that will depend on what you want to do with it...ok?

But I still want both...can ar? :)

This is what we called...MIANG!!!

Cop arrested over alleged rape of 17yr-old

PETALING JAYA: A policemen was arrested after he allegedly raped a 17-year-old girl who was brought into the police station for interrogation.

The girl was allegedly forced to perform oral sex on the policeman, in his 20s, and was raped at a police station in Selangor on June 18.

It is learnt that the girl was on a motorcycle with her boyfriend at 5am when the policeman, who was on patrol, stopped them. As the boyfriend did not have a licence, the policeman and his colleague hauled the couple to the police station for questioning.

Sources said the boyfriend and the girl were questioned in different rooms.

“During questioning, the girl was forced to undress and the policeman threatened to throw her boyfriend in jail for 20 years if she refused to obey him,” said Selangor police chief Deputy Comm Datuk Khalid Abu Bakar.

Fearing for her boyfriend’s safety, the girl agreed to perform oral sex on him before being raped.

After half an hour, the two were released but the girl did not reveal the incident to her boyfriend or family members.

However, two days later she confided in her cousin who promptly told her parents.

Accompanied by family members, the girl lodged a police report at the Putra Heights police station on Sunday.

Khalid said that the policeman, who is married with a child, has been detained and remanded.

“He has been suspended pending investigation,” he added.

Remark: Are we (women) gonna be safe on road? Fuck sake POLICE MIANG!!

This is funny..

And I cannot believe they have the intention to ban them!We can't live without those two!!

No ban on lipstick and high heels

KOTA BARU: The municipal council (MPKB) has clarified that remarks on lipstick and high heel shoes in its circular in May, were meant to spread religious activities.

Its public relations director Azman Mohd Daham said the circular was not a compulsory guideline for Muslim female staff to follow but to encourage them to observe the Islamic dress code.

“Muslim women need not be unduly worried. No action would be taken if they wear thick make-up or high heel shoes,” he told journalists.

Azman was responding to a news report that MPKB had banned Muslims from wearing make-up and high heel shoes which generate loud noises in business and commercial premises under its jurisdiction.

Thick make-up and high heel shoes can give rise to cases of rape and adultery while on a hindsight, a strict adherence to proper Islamic attire was to preserve the dignity of women here, the circular said.

The case was among several that MPKB has found itself embroiled in some form of controversy.

Previously, it was criticised for banning outfits deemed to be sexy and made it compulsory for Muslim women to wear headscarves at commercial, trade and tourism premises.

The latest circular also touches on wearing long sleeves up to the wrist, not to wear transparent attire and wearing socks which cover up their ankles.

State Women Affairs Committee chairman Wan Ubaidah Wan Omar was reported to have said that she supported the circular and asked why women should slave themselves to attract men by wearing high heels and excessive lipstick.

She contends that make-up in light portion was allowed and wearing high heels too often was unhealthy as it placed undue pressure on the feet of the wearer.

Dublin's Park in the Sky

A 'PARK in the Sky' soaring 50 metres above Henry Street and commanding panoramic views across the capital is proposed under a €1.25bn redevelopment of Dublin city centre.

In what could be the biggest regeneration project of O'Connell Street in recent years, the capital's main thoroughfare will be transformed if developer Joe O'Reilly is granted planning permission for an ambitious shopping and restaurant quarter in the heart of the city.

Gone will be Dr Quirkey's Good Time Emporium, the Royal Dublin Hotel and a garda sub-station.

Fashion

Instead, the ' Dublin Central' scheme -- which encompasses the Carlton Cinema site -- hopes to become an Irish Bond Street and home to fashion icons such as Prada, Armani, Tommy Hilfiger and high-end jewellers.

It will also see the first apartments in 250 years being built on O'Connell Street.

After years of legal wrangling over ownership of the 5.5 acre site -- which is bounded by Parnell Street, O'Connell Street, Henry Street and Moore Street -- a development company set up by Joe O'Reilly called Chartered Land has announced it will seek planning permission for a new city quarter by the end of the week.

And the developers say that Moore Street traders have nothing to fear in the redevelopment.

Dominic Deeny, CEO of Chartered Land, says the market will be left in place and it is planned to turn Moore Street into foodie heaven, with specialist food stores opening beside the traders. "We want to encourage the markets to remain, " he said yesterday.

Massive

The massive project will take up to three-and-a-half years to build, and 7,000 people will be employed during the construction stage. Up to 3,000 full-time jobs will be created when it opens in 2013.

In all, 100 shops will be built and 1.7m square feet will be developed, providing 700,000 square feet of retail space.

Two new streets will be created. As yet unnamed, one will link Henry Street to O'Connell Street and be host to high-street retailers such as Zara and Mango; while the other will link O'Connell Street to Moore Street.

The buildings of 14-17 Moore Street -- a national monument used by the leaders of the 1916 Rising for their last stand, will be turned into a commemorative centre.

Two listed buildings -- numbers 42 and 60 O'Connell Street -- will be refurbished and upgraded. An art gallery and performance space will also be created, while the facades of 12 protected structures will be retained.

The Carlton Cinema facade will be moved 50 metres north and become the main entrance to an anchor tenant, who will occupy a 200,000 sq ft store -- about the size of Debenham's on Henry Street.

A restaurant quarter on the fifth storey, overlooking the new streets, will be home to 17 cafes and restaurants. More than 100 apartments will be built, and social and affordable homes will be provided on site.

A thousand underground car parking spaces, accessible from Parnell Street, are also proposed.

Apartments

But at the heart of the project is the Park in the Sky. A triangular building, home to 40 apartments and 12 storeys high, it will have a sloped roof on which the park will be built. Each side will be screened with glass panels, and it will be 50 metres at its highest point.

"We see this as being an 18-hour a day development," Mr Deeny said. "We want it to be primarily a family place. The whole idea is to draw people to the scheme, and it is to encourage tourists to come to this part of the city. We see this going from 5am when the markets open, to 1am when last orders in the restaurant are taken."

A planning application will be lodged with Dublin City Council by the end of the week.

Remark: And I'm lucky to live nearby the Central! :D

€5 to USA

I'll go mad if this happen to me!

From RTE News Today

Aer Lingus commercial director Enda Corneille has told RTE News that the number of bookings which it has cancelled as a result of a pricing error on its website is close to 300, significantly more than the airline previously estimated.

The airline also points out that a booking may involve more than one person travelling, leaving Aer Lingus exposed to a far greater potential financial loss on the affected flights than might generally be perceived.

Earlier, the airline told customers who booked business class flights to the US for just €5 that their bookings had been cancelled. Aer Lingus said the flights - which were advertised on the Aer Lingus website yesterday - were priced incorrectly due to a technical error. Aer Lingus has apologised for the error.

Aer Lingus had previously said the glitch affected around 100 customers between 7.30am and 9am on Wednesday, when promotional fares on its transatlantic route were loaded onto the website accidentally.

The airline says that on legal advice it has decided not to compensate the customers. In e-mails and text messages to the customers, Aer Lingus said: 'Due to a technical error in our reservation system for a brief period a small number of bookings were priced incorrectly. This e-mail is to notify you of cancellation of your booking and to advise no funds will be deducted from your account.'

But speaking on RTE Radio today, Dermot Jewell of the Consumers Association said that customers had a binding contract with Aer Lingus. 'They booked and paid to bind the contract. Realistically Aer Lingus is going to have to do something to abide by the bookings and to help the customers,' he added.

Enda Corneille, Director of Corporate Affairs at Aer Lingus, said anyone who booked a business class ticket, which usually retails at about €1,775, and got it so cheaply, should know there was a mistake.

'When you are selling seats on the front of the site quite openly for €249, to sell a business class seat for a fiver is a genuine mistake. People are going to know there's something up,' he stated.

The CEO of the National Consumer Agency, Ann Fitzgerald, says she has been in contact with Aer Lingus and is seeking a meeting with senior management at the airline to discuss the controversy over cancelled bookings.

Call Girl

I started watching The Secret Diary of a Call Girl from fanpop website. Fanpop is where you can watch most tv series there. It has 8 episodes, runs 30minutes. You may view her blog.

Do you think Sufiah Yusuf aka Shilpa lee got inspired from her? To do unethical (it's against our religion fyi) thing to earn money faster..it does work for her. But would she want to do that for the rest of her life? Wait..wait..you obviously dont have a clue what am I talking about..this is what everyone is talking about..

Sufiah Yusuf is a bright student who won a place at Oxford University at age of 12. She was expected to be 'rich' due to her intelligence but sadly she found doing 'escourt' are more money-making! You can find more stories at News of the World.

I refuse to comment her much as I saw the Belle De Jour's life which is quite simliar to Sufiah. I just hope that she's able to find someone who can bring her back to the right path or realise that life isn't about selling bodies to sex hungers. Life is about embracing moments happening around you while still can.

The moral of the story? Dont pressure too much on your children no matter how perfect you want them to be. Let them acknowledge what's happening around them and making mistakes is not the end of the world.Making mistakes is good as you learning to do the right thing.But dont make too many mistakes okay! Things may become the other way round! See, like me.Very independent (if it wasnt my parents send me off here!). Guess sometimes spoil brats deserve to learn to see the world! =p

Exam & Tests

EXAM

My first exam was yesterday, Paper 3.4 Business Information Management.It was grand,I managed to answer all, but not full question since I got ran out of time. Since this is the last paper ever in this sitting due to the changeover of the new syllabus-yes, there no more paper 3.4 in starting Dec 2007 intake. Which means if you don't nail this,you have to choose other paper to sit for it.

Here are the new syllabus looks like:

P1 - Professional Accountant (PA)
P2 - Corporate Reporting (CR)
P3 - Business Analysis (BA)
P4 - Advanced Financial Management (AFM)
P5 - Advanced Performance Management (APM)
P6 - Advanced Taxation Performance (ATX)
P7 - Advanced Audit & Assurance (AAA)

Brief Explaination on new syllabus (Starting DEC 2007)

The Professional level is divided into two modules - Essentials (P1-P3) and Options (P4-P7).

Both modules have been set at an intellectual level equivalent to that expected of a student taking a Masters degree. The focus of the syllabus at this level is to build upon the technical skills already acquired, and explore more advanced professional skills, techniques, and values that are required and used by the expert accountant acting in an advisory or consultancy role at a senior level. All students must complete the three papers in the Essentials module.

The Options module contains four papers. These are directly underpinned and supported by their equivalent within the Skills module in the Fundamentals level. These exams assess the more advanced and sophisticated techniques that a professional needs in order to specialise in specific areas at work, or to follow as a career pathway in an advisory or consultancy role. Students select two out of four Option papers and are advised to choose the options that relate to their chosen or anticipated field of work.

TESTS

I took a few yesterday, mainly because my school friend got engaged last Sunday. So, I was kind of curious that what are the criteria am I looking for from a guy. So, I just took that test, to see whether it interpret about myself is true or not. Anyway, it's up to me whether I want to believe it or not.

Here are the results from Test 1: Perfect Partner Analysis

	YOUR RELATIONSHIP STYLE The first step in discovering your best match is getting a clear picture of your own relationship style. Good or bad, your experiences with your parents -- in childhood and adulthood -- play a key role in establishing your relationship style and the kind of person who you're best suited for now. Based on your experiences, you will probably fall naturally into one of three categories:
	? Isolator: If you are an Isolator, you need a lot of personal space. Isolators minimize emotion, are often guarded and unconsciously push people away, keeping them at a distance. ? Fuser: If you are a Fuser, you have an insatiable appetite for closeness and don't like being alone. Fusers crave attention and are sometimes described as clingy. ? Ambivalent: If you are an Ambivalent, you are a little bit of both. Ambivalents like to pull away, yet they want to feel close at the same time. They can also be confusing and hard to read.
	Based on your test response

YOU ARE AN AMBIVALENT




YOUR CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES
Your childhood experiences show that you are an Ambivalent. As a child, you probably received plenty of love and affection from your parents but were also allowed to form your own sense of independence. Your parents may have upset you and let you down at times, but your childhood needs were essentially met. Therefore, as an adult, you have traits that are common in both Isolators and Fusers, two polar opposites. This means that your relationship style includes many interesting contradictions. You've been known to both push people away and expect them to dote on you at the same time. Freedom is just as appealing to you as being showered with affection.


YOUR PERFECT PARTNER
As an Ambivalent, you're uniquely qualified to have a successful relationship with a partner from either category: Fusers or Isolators.

In your case, "happily ever after" depends on which role you find yourself adopting more often. If you're usually the outgoing one in the relationship, often seeking affection and attention, you're more of a Fuser. This means that your perfect partner is actually your opposite type, an Isolator. You may have guessed just the contrary, that your best match would be someone who would shower you with all the love and affection you crave. But happiness for you means partnering with someone who will respect your privacy and support you when you want to do independent activities, much like your parents did.

If you're often a private person who likes her space, you're more of an Isolator. This means that your perfect partner is actually your opposite type, a Fuser. Contrary to what you might have thought, your best match is not someone who gives you all the space and freedom you crave. Instead, your best bet for long-term happiness is partnering with someone who dotes on you, someone who shows his affection and expresses his emotions easily and often, just as your parents did.

Results from Test 2: Personal Astrology Profile

Section 1: How You Approach Life and How You Appear To Other

Cautious, prudent, and rather self-contained, you are a person who approaches life realistically and who is not inclined to take foolish chances or get carried away by the overly optimistic or idealistic schemes of starry-eyed dreamers. In fact, you frequently have a jaundiced view of such things. You are rather worldly-wise at a fairly young age, even something of a cynic. Often the world doesn't seem like a safe, friendly place to you, and you tend to approach life in a guarded, conservative manner. You are generally calculating and careful, and are rarely spontaneous, fluid, open, and childlike.

Section 2: The Inner You: Your Real Motivation

Proud and intensely individual, you really want to stand out, to be the very best you can be, and to be recognized and appreciated for your unique contributions. Doing something well and being respected for it is extremely important to you, and you cannot tolerate being in the background, taking orders from others, or being "just one of the team". You must put your personal stamp on whatever you do, and direct your own course in life. You need to have a place where you can shine, express yourself creatively, and be the one in charge.

Remarks: The way it turns out,seem to be mostly true, but again..it's just a test.

Gonna hit the books again..last sitting on Friday,taking paper 3.3 Performance Management.Wish me luck ;)

the controversial Lina JOy~~

Lina Joy Case

Remarks:

• Is she kidding me?Even I live in Dublin never have the thought of changing my religion (although I'm not so religious, at least i pray & read ayat2 Quran).
  
• How can the government let her changed religion in her IC(Identity Card)? Well, thank god it wasn't successful~
  
• If she doesn't want to practice the Islam religion/culture,wanting to be like a western person, fine with me..but change to Christian? I don't get it! What the hell are you thinking?!!

Enough said. Off for lunch with miss choy & menon at aya~

pressure..pressure..

Firstly, my roommate kinda asked me to join her watch Datin Diaries. I'm not sure what's going on but erm..I'm aware that this show is showing in tv3 now. So, I assume it's a good drama series and will catch up right after the exams..

I've seen 1 of the episodes and I started to dislike very rich men who are very familiar with the word 'polygamy/affairs'. I mean..can't you just stick to a woman? Why do men have to misuse to term of polygamy? I wouldn't mind if you want to fool around when your status are 'single'..but not married okay, that's really a turn-off for me! I couldn't talk about it in depth as this is a sensitive issue. But overall, I can say that you don't need a filthy rich guy to make you happy. What woman need most from a man is loyal, happiness and financially stable. But NOT SUPER RICH, BOASTFUL & BUAYA GUY!!

As usually, many of my friends in Malaysia are getting married. Good for them but too pressure for me (if I'm in Malaysia). The 'pressure' of getting married at early age is not there, it's simply because I'm in the environment where no one(well, my close ones of course) are getting married soon. So,thank you I'm in Dublin.LOL! But I know 3 couples from my batch here are getting married this August. Congrats to all future newly weds :D

So, when's my turn? Hrmm..I don't know. Why?Because no one has pop-out the question to me (that's what my colleague taught me about answering 'when's your turn?').LOL! Well, it does make sense,though..

Ok..better think of finishing ACCA first, then marriage.LOL. Laters~~

p/s: I'm so stressed out. Exams..exams..exams...huwaaaaaaaaaaa ;-(

PMS

What is PMS?

Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is the name of a group of symptoms that start 7 to 14 days before your period (menstruation). The symptoms usually stop soon after your period begins.

Most women feel some discomfort before their periods. But if you have PMS, you may feel so anxious, depressed or uncomfortable that you can't cope at home or at work. Some of the symptoms of PMS are listed in the box below. Your symptoms may be worse some months and better others.

Symptoms of PMS

• Acne
• Bloated abdomen
• Constipation
• Crying spells
• Depression
• Fast heartbeat
• Feeling hungry
• Feeling irritable or tense
• Feeling tired
• Feeling anxious
• Headache
• Joint pain
• Mood swings
• Not feeling as interested in sex
• Tender and swollen breasts
• Trouble concentrating
• Trouble sleeping
• Swollen hands or feet
• Wanting to be alone
• Weight gain

What causes PMS?

No one knows for sure. But PMS seems to be linked in part to changes in hormone levels during the menstrual cycle. PMS is not caused by stress or psychological problems, though these may make the symptoms of PMS worse.

How is PMS diagnosed?

Your doctor may ask you to keep track of your symptoms on a calendar. If your symptoms follow the same pattern each month, you may have PMS.

Your doctor may want to examine you and do some tests to rule out other problems. He or she may also want to talk to you about your eating and exercise habits, your work and your family.

How is PMS treated?

There is no cure for PMS, but eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly and taking medicine may help. Your doctor will talk to you about whether you need to change your diet and exercise habits. He or she may also prescribe medicine for you, depending on what your symptoms are.

You may need to try more than one medicine to find the treatment that works for you. Many medicines are available over-the-counter, but some require a doctor's prescription. Medicines that can be prescribed include diuretics, antidepressants and birth control pills. Other medicines for PMS are being studied.

What are diuretics?

Diuretics help your body get rid of extra sodium and fluid. They can ease bloating, weight gain, breast pain and abdominal pain. Diuretics are usually taken just before you would normally have these symptoms.

Do antidepressants help?

Antidepressants can help with the severe irritability, depression and anxiety that some women with PMS have. These medicines are usually taken every day.

What about birth control pills?

Your doctor may talk to you about taking birth control pills (sometimes called "the pill") to help ease some of your PMS symptoms. Birth control pills help by "evening out" your hormone levels throughout your cycle. Some women's PMS symptoms get a lot better when they take birth control pills. However, the pill can also cause side effects of its own, and it doesn't help all women.

What about medicines I can buy without a prescription?

You can buy medicines without a prescription to help with the symptoms of PMS. These medicines usually combine aspirin or acetaminophen with caffeine, antihistamines or diuretics. Some brand names include Midol, Pamprin and Premsyn PMS.

Some over-the-counter pain relievers can also help. These include ibuprofen (brand names: Advil, Motrin, Nuprin), ketoprofen (brand name: Orudis KT) and naproxen (brand name: Aleve).

These medicines can work quite well for mild or moderate PMS. Talk to your doctor before you try one of these drugs.

Can I do anything to ease my symptoms?

Yes. See the box below for some tips. Know what your PMS symtoms are and when they happen. Then you can change your diet, exercise and schedule to get through each month as smoothly as possible.

Try not to get discouraged if it takes some time to find tips or medicine that help you. Treatment varies from one person to another. Your doctor can help you find the right treatment.

Tips on controlling PMS

• Eat complex carbohydrates (such as whole grain breads, pasta and cereals), fiber and protein. Cut back on sugar and fat.
• Avoid salt for the last few days before your period to reduce bloating and fluid retention.
• Cut back on caffeine to feel less tense and irritable and to ease breast soreness.
• Cut out alcohol. Drinking it before your period can make you feel more depressed.
• Try eating up to 6 small meals a day instead of 3 larger ones.
• Get aerobic exercise. Work up to 30 minutes, 4 to 6 times a week.
• Get plenty of sleep--about 8 hours a night.
• Keep to a regular schedule of meals, bedtime and exercise.
• Try to schedule stressful events for the week after your period.

What about vitamins and other home remedies?

You may have read that some vitamins and other supplements, such as vitamin B6, vitamin E, magnesium, manganese and tryptophan, can help relieve PMS. There haven't been many studies about these treatments, and it's possible that they could do more harm than good. For example, vitamin B6 and vitamin E can cause side effects if you take too much. Talk to your doctor if you're thinking of trying any of these vitamins or supplements.

On the other hand, taking calcium pills may reduce symptoms of water retention, cramps and back pain. Taking about 1,000 mg of calcium a day probably won't be harmful, especially because calcium has so many other benefits, such as being good for your bones.

Written by familydoctor.org editorial staff.

Source

American Academy of Family Physicians

Friendship vS Relationship

Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behaviour between two or more humans. Relationship may refer to interpersonal relationship and intimate relationship, including relationships based on romantic love.

Which one of these is the most precious?It depends on the individual and situation..

Friends and partner are likely to be there for you when needed. They are the people who you can rely on. They are the people who you can trust. They are everything in our life.

Here's the trick. The question is, who would you go to when comes to:

1. Love
   
2. Happiness
3. Security
4. Financially

Partner or friend?

This is so true...

Enjoy reading ;)


5 Women Break Their Own Rules
By Marisa Cohen


Breaking Personal Boundaries
My Aunt Lucille has given me a lot of advice over the years, but one bit has always stuck with me: When I announced at age 12 that I would never eat red meat again, she said to me, "Why say never? Why not just say you won't eat red meat today? Then you won't have to go back on your word." And a year later, as I gave in to my overwhelming desire for a cheeseburger, I realized she was right.

I've thought about that conversation often -- especially when I hear someone make a bold statement like "I will never have children," or "I will never live on the West Coast." There's a real difference between declaring your principles ("I would never take drugs or cheat on my husband" are pretty good ones) and setting up nonnegotiable boundaries based on what's right for you at that particular moment in your life. After all, the things that would seem unimaginable at age 25 may become exactly what you want at 35. "Life is a work in progress," explains Patricia A. Farrell, PhD, a psychologist in New Jersey and author of How to Be Your Own Therapist (McGraw-Hill, 2004). "You need to leave yourself some flexibility, because you don't know when a job opportunity, a love connection, or the discovery of a new talent will totally change your perspective."

Here, five women who absolutely, positively swore they would never do something explain how going back on their word helped them move up and move on to a life they had never imagined possible.

"I will never marry someone who doesn't fit my checklist."

"I swore I would never date -- much less marry -- a man who was shorter than me," says five-foot-eight-and-a-half Jennifer Toth, a 31-year-old grad student in Weehawken, New Jersey. "The idea drilled into my head by my friends and my mom was: The guy has to be taller than the girl." Jennifer dated a series of lanky men in college, but when it came to intelligence and personality, none of them measured up to her platonic friend Joseph, who at five feet three inches barely grazed her shoulders. "Joseph was compassionate and funny and had beautiful brown eyes," Jennifer says. "But I couldn't quiet the voice in my head saying, 'What will people think?'"

After six months of friendship, Jennifer and Joseph began a cautious romance. Even as their relationship grew, Jennifer admits that it took at least two years for her to completely banish her misgivings about their height difference. "Eventually I realized that Joseph was everything I had ever wanted, just in a smaller package." So in the fall of 2001, towering over him in heels and poufy hair, Jennifer married Joseph. "Standing at the altar, I thought, This is the greatest thing I've ever done. I knew his height no longer mattered."

Lesson Learned: Don't try to please everyone else. Some nevers grow from a deep place within your soul, but others are implanted early on by outside forces, like the media, your friends and, yes, your mother -- and those are the most negotiable. So how do you clear out the clutter and focus on what's right for you? "Ask yourself, 'If I lived on another planet where no one else would ever see me, would I want to marry this man or take this job or live this life?'" suggests Dana Lightman, PhD, a psychotherapist in Philadelphia and author of POWER Optimism (Power Optimism, 2004). "If the answer is yes, then you should take that path and focus on what makes you happy."

"I will never live in the suburbs."

Kathleen Hands-DiNonno, 38, grew up in the land of minivans and malls, counting the days until she could leave for the nonstop buzz of New York City. "I moved to the city right after college and swore I would never live anywhere else," she recalls. Kathleen even chose the city over her career: When she was 30, her position as an event planner, a job she truly enjoyed, was transferred to Atlanta. "Even though I signed a lease for an apartment there, a couple of weeks before moving, I panicked and backed out."

A few years later, she got married and had a baby, and suddenly her vow never to leave the city felt more like an obstacle. "My husband and I talked about opening our own business and buying a house, and we knew we couldn't afford to do both in New York," she says.
She reluctantly agreed to check out Charlotte, North Carolina, and was surprised to discover that her assumptions about the burbs were false. "The people we met were interesting, and there was great shopping and theater," she says. Kathleen and her husband bought a house with a yard in the suburbs and settled into their new life. "My time in New York City was right for me then," she says. "But this is right for me now."

Lesson Learned: Having children can change your priorities. Swearing everlasting allegiance to a certain lifestyle is common when you're young and eager to define yourself. "But as you get older, you need to reevaluate your situation," says Farrell. "Ask yourself, 'What prompted me to make that vow, and is that still my main concern?'" Making accommodations for a new family doesn't mean you have to completely forsake everything you loved about your single life. "It's important to revisit that old lifestyle in energizing little bits," she says. That can mean getting together with friends for a monthly girls' night out or taking a weekend trip back to New York for a marathon of theatergoing and shoe shopping.

"I will never take financial risks."

Throughout her 20s and 30s, Therese Shechter was all about financial security. She had a good job as a graphic designer at a big Chicago newspaper, a cozy condo, and a membership at an upscale gym. "I used to hire freelancers, and I would always think, How can they live not knowing where their next paycheck is coming from?" recalls Therese, now 44. When a friend invited her to teach journalism in Eastern Europe, she declined. "I had always dreamed of living abroad, but now I owned a condo for crying out loud! I couldn't just pick up and leave!"

Fast-forward a few years, when a breakup with a longtime boyfriend and a rapidly approaching 40th birthday caused Therese to reassess her focus on material comfort. "I didn't want to be on my deathbed regretting things I hadn't done just so I would have enough money to redo my kitchen," she says. A self-proclaimed film geek, Therese decided to attend film school at night. "When I finished, I realized that if I didn't quit and pursue filmmaking, I would be stuck in a job that was 'just okay' for the rest of my life." So she did what she swore she'd never do: She gave up the steady paycheck and began freelancing in design to support herself while she completed her first documentary.

Coming to terms with her new cash-poor lifestyle was one thing -- convincing her friends and family that she hadn't lost her marbles was another matter. "For the first year, I think they were all waiting for me to come to my senses," Therese admits. But trading the fancy gym for workouts at the Y and gourmet dinners for take-out Chinese has paid off in personal satisfaction. "I am infinitely happier now," says Therese. "Who knows? Maybe I'll wind up in Europe after all."

Lesson Learned: Sometimes you have to sacrifice security to achieve happiness. Though you may think that you are mentally prepared to live with diminished resources, you may find it difficult, initially, to get by on less. To cushion the blow, make sure that you have all the details covered, including a workable strategy for paying your rent, a nest egg of savings to cover your living expenses for the first few months, and a fallback plan in case things don't go as expected.
You may also find that you have to constantly reassure skeptical friends and worried relatives that you're making a sound decision. As annoying as this may be, it can actually help, says Dan Neuharth, PhD, a San Francisco-based therapist and author of Secrets You Keep from Yourself (St. Martin's Griffin, 2005). "Not only will it prove you're passionate about your new life plan, but each time you make your case, the dream will become more real for you."

"I will never get married."

Some girls dream of their wedding day. For Jennie Dunham, 37, that dream was more like a recurring nightmare. "Ever since I was little, I was adamant that I was never going to get married," says Jennie, a literary agent in New York City. "I was convinced that the only reason a man would want to get married was to have someone cook and clean for him."

When she fell in love with a musician, "I couldn't make that commitment," Jennie recalls. Eventually, they split. A few years later she met Craig, a computer engineer who loved Jennie's independence but also wanted to get married and start a family. Whenever Jennie brought up the reasons she didn't want to get hitched, Craig countered with the ways they could make marriage work for them. She didn't want a church service? They could write their own ceremony. She didn't want to be a stay-at-home mom? They'd hire an au pair. "I realized it wasn't marriage that I was against, but the traditional role of a wife."

Six years and one child later, Jennie has become a big fan of her own marriage: "Every anniversary, we repeat our vows to reinforce the idea that we chose to be together."

Lesson Learned: Marriage doesn't have to fit a certain mold. "Our goals are usually a combination of what we want to achieve and what we wish to avoid," says Neuharth. But you don't want to let your fears keep you from pursuing the good stuff in life, so experts suggest you list the things that turn you off from an institution such as marriage or parenthood, and then look at each item for acceptable alternatives. If you still see more negatives than positives, then it might be best to stick to your never -- at least until someone inspires you enough to revisit it.

"I will never take a job where I have to wear a suit."

When Kim McWaters was in high school, she imagined her future would involve spangles, tutus, and Broadway lights, not a briefcase and sensible heels. "The corporate world seemed regimented and boring," says the 42-year-old mother of three in Glendale, Arizona. "I wanted to do something I was passionate about." Kim was talented enough to win a musical-theater scholarship, but a pregnancy threw a hitch into her plans. She stayed home to have the baby and enrolled part time in the local college.

To make extra money, Kim took a job answering phones at Universal Technical Institute, an automotive school. But then a funny thing happened. Kim found that she loved talking to the people who called the school. "I started thinking, I could actually like this," she recalls. She stayed at the company, moving to sales and marketing, where she put her theatrical chops to good use creating commercials and videos for the school. Twenty years later, she is the president and CEO of the company.

Kim says the fact that she made the right decision became clear one day when she was talking to an old theater friend who was starring in a Broadway show. "I asked him what it was like, and he said, 'It's just a job.' I have never once thought of my career as being just a job. It makes me think that this is my true calling."

Lesson Learned: Take a good look at the big picture. When you're in the process of switching destinies, you may experience moments of doubt, but if the choice truly makes sense for you, then those feelings will be short-lived. "Imagine yourself 10 years in the future," suggests Neuharth. "By then, the discomfort of going back on your never will have faded, so picture what all the long-run benefits are. Focusing on the positives will help your adjustment."
Best of all, once you knock down that first never, you'll see new opportunities everywhere you look. "When you step out of your traditional role, you open yourself up to completely new adventures in life," says Lightman.

Originally published in Fitness magazine, May 2006.